Have you ever said you wanted something, only to discover that it may be too difficult or you don’t feel you have what it takes to get it, or worse yet, you get it and realize only later that you never really wanted it! This is not unusual is it? You have probably done it yourself and certainly you know of others who have done it too. In fact, discovering what it requires to do something is usually the first test to know how much you want it, right? What you are willing to do to get it is the perfect barometer of your desire isn’t it?
You might ask yourself, “why is this important?” The reason is because this works the same way for small things in your life as it does for the BIG things. Its very important to gauge your passion before making massive life changes. You want to be sure it’s really something that you want to do. The way you can do this is by getting clear about your feelings in the matter. How do you know if something is right for you? If you are in your head, you can be sure that you will begin to weigh and criticize every dream or idea you have, and this can cause confusion when it comes to tough decisions. Sometimes you have to just sit with an idea and let it “simmer” for a while.
You can have a fantastic relationship between the parts of you that are commonly called ‘head’ and ‘heart’. In it’s capacity, your head can serve you well. It can provide you with ways and means to achieve your dreams, and in the case of more mundane desires, it can direct you to satisfaction. But if it denies the wisdom of your heart, the messages may become less clear and confusion will soon follow. This is what happens in mid-life when people suddenly leave their former life and begin a new one, often in a completely different direction! You know what I mean, don’t you.
Can you think of a time when you wanted something and then killed it with your critical thinking? I bet you can. This is where the head and heart can work together – the heart can show the head the direction, and the head can find the way to get there! Working together is a powerful combination.
Wanting something that you have no emotional connection with is sometimes the source of real problems. In fact, by it’s very own meaning, WANTING implies – YOU DONT HAVE IT! When you have an E-motional connection to something, it is as if it exists within you already. There is a lot of buzz about feeling that you already have what you want, and that you are on your way to getting it -see?
What do you want in your life? What will having it get for you, at a deep level? How will you know when you have it or, in what context will you have it? The answer to these questions should be the center of your focus – try it.